Month: May 2024

Meal Ideas for Students

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This summer we are trying something new. Periodically we are going to host brunches during the summer months to provide an opportunity for students and their families to fellowship and have fun together after church on Sundays.

But here’s the thing: we don’t want to take the easy and typical youth ministry approach to these brunches and offer up a variety of pizzas. Instead, we want to provide something different and fun that will appeal to a variety of people. As we were thinking through what these options could be, I wanted to share these ideas with you to help you think outside the box on meals you could offer throughout the year to your students.

Keep in mind that these types of meals can be elevated and shaped in any way you would like. You can also compliment these meals with various sides and toppings to make it a more complete meal.

Breakfast foods.

Whether it’s for dinner or breakfast, breakfast foods can be a ton of fun and offer a lot of variety. You could provide a cereal bar; pancakes and bacon; a fill-your-own-crepe evening; various types of baked oatmeal; breakfast casseroles, or even go all out and do eggs, hash browns, and bacon. Breakfast presents a bunch of fun opportunities to be creative and offer a creative approach to meal time.

Build your own sandwich.

Let’s be honest: sandwiches tend to be a bit boring. But what if you allowed everyone to build their own from the supplies provided? You could have a variety of breads, proteins, cheeses, toppings, and spreads and all of sudden everyone can jump in and be creative and unique in what they make, and it provides a variety of options.

Walking tacos or taco bar.

These can be as easy or creative as you like and are sure to be a crowd-pleaser. Walking tacos can be done with individual bags of Frito’s or Doritos, or you can up the ante and allow people to choose from a variety of chips and create their own flavors. You can also get creative with the type of meats you use. You could incorporate ground beef, steak, pulled chicken, grilled or shredded pork, or incorporate fajita-style veggies. The toppings can be as minimal or vast as you’d like, and you could even ask your group to bring whatever their favorite toppings are to ramp up the variety.

Pulled pork, chicken, or beef.

These are always an easy go-to for a dinner or lunch and they can be flavored in so many different ways you are sure to please a wide variety of people. We found a super easy recipe for pulled pork that simply incorporates root beer and bbq sauce. We tweaked the recipe by getting a couple of marinated pork loins from Aldi and our students raved about it. An easy way to help this work with even picky students is by simply cooking and shredding the meat and allowing them to add their own condiments and toppings to make it their way.

Meatball subs.

Buy a large bag of frozen meatballs, some jars of pasta sauce or bbq sauce, buns, and some shredded cheese and all of a sudden you have yourself a party! The beauty of meatballs is you can simply throw them in a crock pot with your choice of sauce and forget them until it’s time to eat. Providing some quality hoagie rolls and cheese makes these meatball subs a great option.

Pasta night.

There are so many types of pasta you can make for your students! And you can boost this by providing a variety of sauces that your students can add to their favorite pasta. You can also make this a bigger meal by purchasing meatballs and garlic bread to make it feel like a more complete meal for your group.

Hot dogs and hamburgers.

Being able to grill hot dogs and hamburgers is a great way to provide for students and it’s relatively inexpensive. You can purchase bulk hot dogs and hamburgers from a local supermarket or big box store and feed a crowd easily. To make this more fun, make sure to have different condiments and some side items, and maybe consider getting some brats or other unique sausages to grill. You could also have some fun toppings like grilled peppers and onions, and you could do cheeseburgers with various cheeses (these can be purchased inexpensively from stores like Aldi). I’d also recommend seasoning the patties if you do hamburgers to add an additional layer of flavor to your burgers.

Book Review: The Quick Reference Guide to Counseling Teenagers

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Working with students means that inevitably you will end up engaging in counseling sooner than later. One of the things we have said often is know your limitations and know when to refer out to professionals who are trained in the areas you are not. That doesn’t mean you won’t ever engage in counseling, but it does mean we should know when and be able to refer out to trusted, licensed counselors.

But what about those times that you do need to offer counseling and advice? What do you do in those moments? My first guidance would be to seek out resources and training to help you grow as you serve and care for your students. One of the best resources I have found to help with these parts of our ministry is The Quick Reference Guide to Counseling Teenagers by Dr. Tim Clinton and Dr. Chap Clark.

This is not a catch-all for counseling, nor does it make us a licensed clinical counselor, but it does provide beneficial guidance, resources, and productive ways to minister to and care for our students. This is also only one book in a series of counseling books that have been put out from the same group and all of them are incredibly helpful.

To start things off there is a table of contents that highlights various counseling areas that are listed alphabetically for a quick reference. Once you get to the area you are looking for assistance in, you will find that it starts with some case studies (portraits) and then definitions and key thoughts to help you understand what you are dealing with and how it can manifest in different people and circumstances. These will also help to outline and highlight various symptoms and/or patterns that may be exhibited in someone who is struggling.

That is followed by questions to ask which are often in the style of an intake session for counselors coupled with conversation prompts. Some of these questions will be for just the student and in others there will be questions for both parents and students. Then the authors provide action steps which can be for students and parents depending on the category, biblical insights, and prayer starters which are a must for any pastor or leader who is offering guidance and counseling. Lastly they offer up additional resources that are extremely helpful.

Overall, this book is a must for anyone serving in student ministry because it provides you with the resources and guidance you need for counseling students. For those who have minimal training in counseling this book provides a ton of helpful guidance and insight into how to care for your students. The biblical aspects are so necessary in our line of work and provide you with ways to help your students continue to grow in their discipleship relationship with Jesus even as they grapple with difficult aspects of their lives.

Some of the critiques of this book is that it is outdated (it was published in 2010) and it doesn’t have all the issues that student workers will encounter in our present environment. So it is highly important to keep that in mind as you look for the areas in which you’re going to be offering counsel. This isn’t a criticism of the book but a word of guidance for those who utilize this resource: the prompts can feel very basic and scripted if you simply state them as they are in the book (i.e. the questions, biblical insights, and prayer prompts). My encouragement would be to make these pieces personal and relational as you counsel your students.

It is helpful to remind everyone that if you don’t have a counseling degree and verification, you are not a counselor but a pastor who is offering care with counseling elements. Don’t ever offer counsel you are unsure of or don’t have the training to offer. Instead be willing to offer guidance and advice, and be willing to refer when needed.

At the end of the day, this book is one I would highly recommend to anyone who works with students. It is incredibly beneficial and will make you a better pastor, shepherd, and counselor to your students, leaders, and families.

Why Have Mission Trip Training?

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I remember going on my first mission trip in high school. I was a junior and we went to Mexico to serve in one of the cities there. I knew some of the group I went with and had a little bit of an idea of what we would be doing. I knew we would be performing some dramas portrayed to music because we were separated into groups and told to find time to practice and prepare.

We were given a music video and told to try and replicate that for our trip. We got together and practiced, and we ended up being pretty good (minus my lack of musical skill and being able to keep time). We had a couple of team meetings where we’d talk about knowing some Spanish and were given a brief overview of what to expect. Other than that we were told to have our passports ready and were given a tiny packing list. I had no idea what we were walking into, I didn’t really know what to expect or what we’d be doing, and I wasn’t prepared for the culture shock.

In other churches where I’ve served, mission training and prep work were not in-depth nor did they actually prepare us for what we would do. It was very basic and broad, and probably not overly helpful for our teams. Now, I have completely tried to shift how this is done with our students in order to better prepare them, help them grow and mature, and to set them up for success on the trip. I am not saying that what we do for our training is perfect or a one-size-fits-all approach, but I do believe what we offer is helpful and beneficial for everyone who goes on the trip. Below are the aspects we incorporate to make training important, necessary, meaningful, and developmental.

Team building.

Thoughtful and practical team building is a must for your group because it helps them prepare for the changes that will happen and the flexibility that is of vital importance on a mission trip. This can look different depending on your team and can include different games (Minefield, 4 Person Skis, Relay Races, Obstacle Courses, etc.) with thoughtful engagement and questions after it’s done. It could involve practicing building things or using different tools, it may involve different assessments, or it could even be assigning the group a task and removing aspects that we take for granted (i.e. speaking, seeing, lighting, directions, etc.).

In order for these to be successful you must make sure to debrief, engage, and help students process. Students will get frustrated by these exercises, but helping them to understand why they did and how these moments will develop in trips is key because then they can begin to thoughtfully engage better on the trip.

Self-awareness training.

This often goes hand-in-hand with team building because effective team building should have thoughtful reflections and questions afterward to help your team think deeper about how they engage with one another. But that shouldn’t be the only self-awareness training you do. Consider bringing in a spiritual gifts assessment, a small personality assessment like DISC, having students do an assessment like Strength Finders, or even having students think through what will be difficult for them on the trip. Create space for them to share those things in a smaller group and think creatively about how to respond.

Relationship training.

Now hold on for a moment because I know how some of you read that. I am not thinking about couples or “purpling.” What I am talking about is helping our teams understand how to have authentic, interpersonal relationships with one another in the midst of a mission trip.

Prayerfully, you are taking a group of students and leaders who are all very different people. That means their stressors will be different, how they respond to certain tasks or leaders will differ, and how they engage when overtired, stressed, hungry, or frustrated may cause them to butt heads with other members of your group. Training your team on how to understand those moments will come, how to work to prevent them, how to respond during them, and how to love one another well before, during, and after them is of vital importance.

Understanding where you are going.

Currently, we have been taking teams of high school students to rural Kentucky in the Appalachian Mountains. It’s an amazing community that we have the privilege of helping recover from devastating flooding that occurred in 2022. While we are only 8-9 hours away from there, it is a completely different setting. Culturally it’s different, their vocabulary is different, how they do things is different, and even what they eat is different (remind me to share what soup beans are sometime).

In order to help your team prepare, it may good for you to do a site trip or a vision trip so you can bring back firsthand knowledge to share with them. Regardless of whether you can go to the site first or not, you should work to help your team to understand the setting and culture you are entering into. Set expectations, help them know what to say and not say, talk about what they will see and hear, walk through how to engage with the community, and help them prepare their hearts.

Providing updates.

Mission trip training sessions allow you to provide your team with all the updates they need. Whether it’s updates on the trips, updates on support raising, or updates on packing lists, training allows you to communicate what needs to be shared and help your team be as prepared as possible. Updates help your team to know what they need to know in order to be successful and capable in their service to others.

Engage in thoughtful conversations.

One of the parts our training includes is thinking differently about poverty, how we see people, and how we can help. We want our students to not judge people or fall prey to the typical societal responses toward those individuals who are living in poverty. In order to accomplish this well we incorporate videos from Helping Without Hurting from Life.Church. There are six videos in total and crafting questions for before and after the video will help your team think critically about how and why they are serving.

Mission trip training is vitally important to helping your team gel together, serve well, and be equipped for what they will be doing. Trip training doesn’t guarantee success but it does provide your team with the resources and training that they need in order to thrive on their trip as they seek to serve others.

Ways to Honor & Celebrate Your Seniors

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It’s May, and that means graduation season is coming soon! We have already started to receive graduation party invites, schools are sending out notices about commencement, and students are finishing exams and going on trips. Soon-to-be graduates are preparing for the next step in their journey as young adults.

For us this is always a bittersweet season. We see our students graduate and we are so incredibly proud of them, but it also tugs at the heartstrings as we prepare to say goodbye to them being in our ministries. This year is especially bittersweet for Elise and I as this graduating class is the class that started in our middle school program the year we started at our church.

We have watched these students grow in their faith, ask deep and meaningful questions, wrestle with practical application of what they believe, and navigate all the other complexities that come with middle school and high school. Couple that with our ever-evolving culture, figuring out a new normal post-pandemic, and the complexities of social media, and all of a sudden we realize just how much our students have walked through, overcome, and achieved.

This is an incredibly special moment for seniors and their families, so we as the church should take charge of moments like these to honor, recognize, and celebrate our people. Seniors have many people celebrating them whether it’s at graduation parties, school events, social settings, or cards in the mail. But when was the last time the church celebrated them in a meaningful way?

Many churches will bring graduates on stage and pray for them, but shouldn’t we be looking to up the ante? Can’t we do something more? This has become a passion of mine over my last decade in student ministry, and today I want to share some tips on how you can meaningfully celebrate your graduates and honor all that they have accomplished.

Create an intentional brochure.

Over the past few years we have revamped our senior brochure that we hand out to our congregation. It used to just be a picture of each graduate, what high school they graduated from, and where they were going to college. But in wanting to be intentional in how we honor our seniors, we took it a step further.

We asked them to share their favorite memories, what God has been teaching them, their intended major or focus, and how the church can pray for them. These questions helped to personalize the brochure and give our church ways to engage with students at a deeper, more personal and spiritual level.

Host a reception.

After our commissioning we have a reception with refreshments, gifts, encouragement for graduates and families, a photo booth, and a time for families to encourage and pray over their graduates. A reception doesn’t have to be over the top to be intentional. By simply providing a space and opportunity to celebrate and honor students, you are highlighting the importance of what they have accomplished as you care well for them.

We incorporate balloons, fun graduation plates and cups, refreshments, a table centerpiece, a photo booth, and a presentation. While this may sound like a lot, but many of these elements were made by our team or acquired over the years. It’s all about being creative and thoughtful and building upon each year.

Write them a letter.

In the last few years we have started writing a letter to our graduates that our student ministry team and senior pastor sign. These letters are intentionally thought out and highlight the ways our church is for our students and will continue to be for them. These letters can be from you personally, your student ministry, or even church leadership, and they are an opportunity for you to encourage your students and show them that the church is for them.

Provide a meaningful gift.

This was never something I experienced in high school, and it wasn’t until I had my first full time job in student ministry that I saw seniors receive a gift. I’ll admit, at that time we simply gave them a book, but that stirred in me a desire to be intentional with what we give our students.

A meaningful gift doesn’t have to be expensive or over the top; it does need to be thought out and purposeful though. Today, we give our students a gift bag filled with candy, glow sticks, a confetti popper, a book, a card from church staff, a letter from church leadership, and a few other small items. We want our students to know we thought about them when we put the gift together and that it is both meaningful and practical.

Share photos.

Whenever you honor your students, try to share photos of them to highlight them. These can be photos from when they were in youth group, family photos, their graduation photos, prom photos, or photos from trips and retreats. You could include throwback photos for a “trip down memory lane,” which some of your students may cringe at but all will chuckle at how much they have grown. However you choose to do this, make sure that you have all your students in the photos if at all possible.

Honor them at youth group.

Another way to honor and celebrate your seniors is to acknowledge them in front of your youth group. This could be sharing memories and stories about the students, it could be praying for them, giving them a gift, or having a cake for them to celebrate. Whatever it looks like at your youth group, make sure to celebrate and pray for them as they prepare for the next step in their faith journey.

Commission them.

Over the past five years, our family ministry team has been intentionally attempting to make our time celebrating our seniors more than just a celebration and more of a commissioning. We are sending our students out into the next part of their faith journey and as such we should commission them in the same way we commission and send out missionaries.

Take time to highlight where your students are going, what they are pursuing, and how the church can pray for them. If possible, I would encourage you to bring up family members, small group leaders, and church leaders to pray over your students. This helps to confirm to your students that you and the church will be for them as they head out.

Pray for them.

Praying for your graduates is one of the best things you can do. If you’re honoring them in front of the church, consider having your senior pastor, an elder, or multiple leaders pray over them as your church participates with them. Another way to pray for your students is asking them what their prayer requests are and sharing those requests with the church. This will allow for multiple people to pray for your students in intentional and personal ways.